No matter where I go there are two things that everyone seems to be talking about: the Hillary Clinton email scandal and Creflo Dollar’s $65 million request to his congregation for a private jet. If you want to hear my personal opinion on Creflo Dollar’s $65 million request, tune in on Sunday, March 22nd to Let’s Face It w/Wil Strayhorn and Friends and I’ll tell you. I already weighed in on the Hillary Clinton email scandal during our March 15th broadcast—that should be available within the next 24 hours at letsfaceitradio.com.
Regardless of how you weigh in on the Creflo Dollar matter, there is one glaring message that remains: what do you tolerate or allow in your life? See, we can argue until Sunday on how right or wrong he is for asking parishioners for such a huge amount of money. We can continue to beat the proverbial dead horseof mega churches, their leaders and how they are “pimping their members”. None of these were the first question or thoughts that came to my mind when I heard this story.
Just think of it this way: if Creflo Dollar did make a $65 million dollar request to the church for a private jet, then obviously the environment or culture is one that he feels comfortable enough to make such a request. Only time and research will tell but I’m sure this is not the first big monetary request he has made from that church nor will it be the last. If you sum up the multiple things this church pays for in support of their Pastor and leaders, the total would probably exceed $65 million dollars. Again, my point is that, if this story is true, Creflo Dollar feels COMFORTABLE ENOUGH to makes such a request (right or wrong).
Moral of this story: don’t get mad or upset with those in your life that request of you the unthinkable, the ridiculous and the outrageous. (I know it is easier said than done and I repeatedly teach myself the same thing.) What you really need to analyze and ask yourself is, “have I created the perfect environment for them to feel comfortable making this request from me? Have my actions, words and deeds supported their request or demands?”
Sometimes the answer is no and that person is simply an opportunist looking for a yes and will ask a million people in the hopes to get what he or she wants. (Some of us could use that type of persistence in our business and personal lives although maybe not the same approach.) However, if your answer reveals that they are comfortable asking the unthinkable because you have continually enabled them and built the perfect breeding ground for their behavior/requests, then the problem is not them but YOU.
--Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker and Best Selling Author
CEO, Alesha Brown LLC
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