One of the joys of mentoring is watching the development of your mentees. One reoccurring theme is that we are the crowns we choose to wear. What do I mean?
All too often I come in contact with those who are part of the "pity party committee". Now, we all have our crosses to bear and there is a time for grief and mourning. Yet, Proverbs 18:21 is a self-fulfilling prophecy: "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit", NKJV. Too many of us, and at times I fall victim to the same, love the attention that comes from complaining, whining and looking for sympathy. We want to talk about how hard we have had it, the breaks we never received and the raw deals that were handed to us. Some take this to the extreme and it would appear that they are living martyrs. Well, that is the problem: there are NO LIVING MARTYRS!!!!
You can do the research yourself but, by definition, a martyr is someone who suffers persecution and/or death for advocating, renouncing, refusing to renounce, and/or refusing to advocate a belief or cause of either a religious or secular nature. Meditate on that for a moment; most of us have never experienced this extreme level of persecution and definitely not for religious or similar reasons.
A beauty queen sets her eyes on the crown and creates a winning strategy that she pursues RELENTLESSLY. She refuses to stop until she is wearing her shining, sparkling crown. Are you doing the same but in reverse? Do your actions, conversations and consuming thoughts equate to a crown of suffering, poverty, denial, lack, chaos, confusion, helplessness, insecurity, low self-esteem or . . . a martyr? Just remember, regardless of the crown you pursue, be careful: a martyr must die!
Begin your work today to identify what crown you have been chasing versus what you really want out of life:
--Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker and Best Selling Author
CEO, Alesha Brown LLC
Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
Helping you to find a light at the end of the tunnel.